?

Log in

No account? Create an account
ENTRIES FRIENDS CALENDAR INFO PREVIOUS PREVIOUS NEXT NEXT
Home and Away - De File — LiveJournal
Does Collecting Make You Feel Dirty?
cbertsch
cbertsch
Home and Away
6 comments or Leave a comment
Comments
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: June 3rd, 2018 05:35 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
I was feeling nostalgic for LJ -- perhaps because my perpetually insomniac daughter is currently sleepless in Chicago instead of here -- so I stopped by and saw that I'd missed this comment from you.

Whether it gets better depends a lot on the kid, I think. It does seem that children with siblings burden their parents a bit less and that their parents burden them less as well.

In my case, though, the main problem is just that my daughter's unique personality traits make it much harder for her to navigate everyday life than lots of people. She is very, very smart and very, very talented artistically, but suffers from massive anxiety. Because I love her and I also think she has a lot to offer the world, I made a conscious decision to support her, even at my own expense.

I think that effort has succeeded, to a degree. She dropped out of high school after one semester, basically, yet just finished her second year at the U of A a year ahead of her former classmates. And she's doing great, by objective measures of academic performance. There are still many anxiety attacks and a lot of despair about the fact that those attacks will never go away completely, but it's still a huge improvement over 2013-2015.
6 comments or Leave a comment