Charlie Bertsch (cbertsch) wrote,
Charlie Bertsch

  • Mood:
  • Music:


I keep thinking about the results of that experiment on monkeys, which suggested that even "simple" primates have an innate sense of fairness.

Whenever I visit Skylar's pre-school, there are at least one or two kids in her class seeking redress for wrongs: "He's got two puppets and I only have one."

If only we outgrew this behavior. Pre-school seems like an idealist fantasy compared to most workplaces.

And it's usually no better in the home. I can't tell you how many arguments Kim and I have had over perceived slights.

We should be mature enough to know better, yet we persist in provoking each other. Most of the time, we do it with body language and the sighs and mutterings that give our gestures vocal emphasis. Pressed to explain out exudings, we demur: "I never said I was annoyed. What are you talking about?"

This sort of communicative friction is part and parcel of interpersonal relationships, I suppose. But there would be a lot less of it if we were able to dispense with the notion that every good deed deserves a reward in equal measure.

Why is it so hard for us to forego the emotional ledger sheet?

I hate to sound like one of those pop psychologists whose books grace even poorly stocked airport newsstands. But sometimes you just have to call a Buick Regal a Buick Regal.

We'd be a lot happier if we learned to stop keeping score.

  • Redefining Need

    "Can a society which is incapable of protecting individual privacy even within one's four walls rightfully claim that it respects the individual and…

  • Trump the I

  • Weekend Update

    I frequently feel like writing something longer and sometimes writing it here. Unfortunately, my windows of opportunity these days are five minutes…

  • Post a new comment


    default userpic

    Your reply will be screened

    Your IP address will be recorded 

    When you submit the form an invisible reCAPTCHA check will be performed.
    You must follow the Privacy Policy and Google Terms of use.