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_luaineach From: _luaineach Date: October 28th, 2010 01:20 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
You know I stopped reading regularly (still occasionally doing a pop over to your journal directly) awhile ago because the vaguety-vague-vagueness just doesn't register on my interest scale. Prompted over here in this case by a mutual friend who suggested you might have written something up my alley -- ::insert me laughingly saying "for a change!" here:: -- and they were right.

You know my stance has been for years that I would prefer to read you just tell it like it is.

As for your wife, as you may know, I stopped reading her entirely well over a year ago. However, mutual friend passed along an irritation that she gets a lot of "go you, single mom!" comments which idea she then perpetuates by silence and I have to say, even though I have/had no interest at all in going to check out that original source material, I still felt a flash of white hot rage about it on your behalf.

Anyway! Write more stuff like this and I'll comment! :)

Edited at 2010-10-28 05:45 pm (UTC)
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: October 30th, 2010 05:02 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
(Thank you so much for writing! I didn't realize that you'd edited your initial comment, which I saw and then didn't see, leading me to think that you'd deleted it for some reason. Anyway, here is my belated and grateful reply.)

You know, as much as we've disagreed about things over the years of our acquaintanceship, I've always been very glad to know that you were out there, being strong and not going along with my bullshit (or anyone else's). Even the unfortunate conclusion to our post-Point Break argument -- or whatever it was -- outside the Salty Dog has stuck with me, for there was a lot in what you were saying that resonated with my own concerns about my relationship and its effect on my parenting.

My first impulse, even now, is to defend my wife. I will always love her, even if we can't get along. And I have enormous respect for the changes she has made and what she has accomplished since I first met her back on October 30th, 1989. That said, I do realize that communicating with her has become increasingly difficult for me, to the point where I often can't do anything other than try to agree with her, which I somehow still can't manage half the time, mutable as her mind is.

Anyway, I thank you, with profound gratitude, for checking in here and for setting the example that you do. And, if you're ever inclined to talk outside of an LJ context, I would be very glad to meet up some time.
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