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A Tale of Two Skylars
Today was Skylar's first day of seventh grade. So far, everything has gone swimmingly. I've never seen her so relaxed at the beginning of a school year. Part of it is that she wants to show off her new look:

Skylar has red hair now and wears makeup!

And part of it is that her desire to have a new look reflects the maturity she has begun to manifest lately.

Despite all the reservations Kim and I had -- parents had told us horror stories -- Skylar's first year of middle school went about as well as we could hope. She got started on the right foot and managed to thrive despite the inevitable friend and teacher issues that arose. As it turned out, the happy "It's alright; I'll be fine" look she gave us on her first day of sixth grade was an excellent omen:

Skylar's first day of sixth grade from last August

Some parents have told me that I'll soon be deeply nostalgic for the innocence still written on that sixth-grade face. Maybe so. But I've had a great time with the soon-to-be-a-teenager I've been doing things with this summer. Yes, Skylar is different. But she's still the same old Bean at times. And when it's her new self that's coming to the fore, that person seems truly wonderful to me. Right now, though, I think I like it best when the two Skylars are perceptible at the same time, as a sort of palimpsest:

A palimpsest of old and new Skylar

Still, I recognize that the new Skylar will be asserting herself more and more in the coming months. But I have no complaints.

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croneitude From: croneitude Date: August 11th, 2011 04:06 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
I've spent a lot of time with almost 13-year girls lately. In fact, one of them stayed at my house last night. I find this transition completely fascinating. Especially since the almost 13-year old girls that I'm witnessing are so much more self-assured and in-their-bodies than I was at that age. I hope that the examples I'm seeing will guide me in my own parenting -- I've got a few years yet, but with lots of stuff already manifesting in my almost 10-year old.
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: August 12th, 2011 01:04 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
Between Zumba, horseback riding and jujitsu, all of which emphasize awareness of one's body in motion, Skylar seems to have become a much more confident physical presence in the past few months, despite shooting up at a rate that could have led to awkwardness.
alsoname From: alsoname Date: August 11th, 2011 08:04 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
I'm glad to hear it. I had such a hard time at that age that it's almost impossible for me not to project it onto every "tween" girl that I see.
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: August 12th, 2011 01:04 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
I felt the same way about that period of my life. But so far, so good where Skylar is concerned.
judo100 From: judo100 Date: August 11th, 2011 09:22 pm (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
Wow, Skylar looks older than 7th grade! Girls suddenly mature, going from 12 to 20 in 60 seconds. I hope she has a great time this year. (For me, though, you couldn't pay me enough to go through 7th and 8th grades again!)
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: August 12th, 2011 01:06 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
It has been a stunningly rapid transformation. Even at the end of sixth grade, she didn't have that teen look she sports now.

I had a rough time in those grades myself, but I'm hopeful that things will go better for her.
quuf From: quuf Date: August 12th, 2011 03:20 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)
Such a great kid. And two great parents!
cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: August 12th, 2011 06:40 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)

She's awesome.

Wish we could see you!
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cbertsch From: cbertsch Date: August 15th, 2011 01:19 am (UTC) (LINK TO SPECIFIC ENTRY)

She certainly is her own self. I'm amazed at her force of character, considering the in-between-ness all around her.
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